Teaching is such a noble art that whoever is in the position of teaching must be noble himself. On all the teachings in the world, the most amazing and without a doubt the most important for Humanity is the one of a parent. Before any education system takes over the mind, the most determinant factor of a child growth is the development of his capacity to relate to the social environment he will have to be exposed all his Life. Here is a list of 6 attitudes to embody for the parent who wishes to keep the loving nature of the child a strength more than a vulnerability.
Your Actions = Your Voice
Remember that your actions speak louder than your words. A child doesn’t understand your words first. He feels your energy, your vibes and your intentions. Always choose Love and kindness as a way to express yourself. Your teaching will go beyond your words. Indeed as experts have already established: 80% of our communication is nonverbal for a grown up… Imagine for an child….
I went to watch “The Help” at the movie theater and although the story is amazing in its wholeness, one of the most moving moment to me was when the main character kept repeating to the child these words while directly looking in her eyes: “YOU is kind, YOU is smart, YOU is important”. There is nothing most vital for a child to grow his self-respect by letting him know that he is precious. It is his own self-respect that will build the foundation of his respect for others.
Remember that your child also teaches you. Consider that while you may be labeled as the parent, no one is exempt from learning from everyone and this is despite age, size, form, color, cultures, background or belief system. So, take the time to listen to your child. He knows more about the essence of love and Kindness than we, adults, do. He doesn’t process it with his mind. He lives it with his heart and Soul.
Remain Real and Loving
Your child is a sponge and you are the one with the responsibility to fill it up with Love. Whatever it can absorb, he will.. whatever will run over, he will give. The capacity of the sponge is endlessly expanding as long as you give. Your teaching is summed up in giving Love endlessly. While Love may take different form and sometimes even the form of boundaries, make sure that the expression of your Love always remain the intention with which you teach.
A Smile and a Hug
Sometimes, when the going gets tough and the tough gets going, words have no real effect. The two greatest super powers that can embrace moments of sadness, misunderstanding or anger are smiles and hugs. Never fear to smile or hug NO MATTER the situation. You are the maker of the circumstances and not the other way around.